{"id":65564,"date":"2011-04-13T14:22:06","date_gmt":"2011-04-13T11:22:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/?p=65564"},"modified":"2019-03-28T10:31:47","modified_gmt":"2019-03-28T07:31:47","slug":"etkili-iletisim-kurmada-uygulanabilecek-teknikler-825","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/etkili-iletisim-kurmada-uygulanabilecek-teknikler-825\/","title":{"rendered":"Etkili \u0130leti\u015fim Kurmada Uygulanabilecek Teknikler &#8211; 3"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/ofis-cini-nationalturk.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-61981\" title=\"Ofis Cini\" alt=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/ofis-cini-nationalturk.jpg\" width=\"138\" height=\"150\"><\/a>\u00b7 Do\u011fru Dili Kullanma:<\/strong> Yerine g\u00f6re, &#8220;sen dili&#8221;, &#8220;ben dili&#8221; , &#8221; biz dili&#8221;, &#8220;ego geli\u015ftirici dil&#8221; ve sevgi dili kullan\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. (Bu diller ve kullan\u0131m\u0131 ile ilgili bilgiler aile i\u00e7i ileti\u015fim \u00fcnitesinde verilmi\u015ftir.)<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00b7 \u0130nsanlar\u0131 De\u011fil Problemleri Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za Alma:<\/strong> Kimilerine g\u00f6re hayat, bir sorun \u00e7\u00f6zme s\u00fcrecidir ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam, bu sorunlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmek i\u00e7in g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz \u00e7abalardan olu\u015fur. Sorun \u00e7\u00f6zerken insanlar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za alan bir tutum sergiledi\u011fimizde \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma s\u00fcreci ba\u015flar. Bu, i\u015fleri zorla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Oysa ki\u015fileri bir tarafa b\u0131rak\u0131p sadece soruna (davran\u0131\u015fa) y\u00f6neldi\u011fimizde daha \u00e7ok i\u015fbirli\u011fi kurma ve geli\u015ftirme \u015fans\u0131 yakalayabiliriz. Ki\u015fi hakk\u0131nda de\u011fil, durum (sorun) hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131z. Bu da, ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla daha kolay ileti\u015fim kurmay\u0131 ve beraberinde daha kolay \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc getirir. \u00d6rne\u011fin; Duygulara de\u011fil, davran\u0131\u015flara s\u0131n\u0131r getirmeliyiz. \u00d6fkelenmen normal (anlayabiliyorum) ama cama\/kap\u0131ya vurman uygun de\u011fil gibi.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00b7 \u00c7at\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 De\u011fil, Tolerans\u0131 ve Uzla\u015fmay\u0131 \u00d6\u011frenme: <\/strong>\u0130nsanlar\u0131 koruyan gerginlikler de\u011fil, esnekliklerdir. Bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcn dedi\u011fi gibi &#8221; Sert olma k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n. Yumu\u015fak olma ezilirsin.&#8221; Esnek davranmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek iyi bir ileti\u015fim ve olumlu insan ili\u015fkileri i\u00e7in gereklidir. Tolerans (esneklik) \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 \u00f6nler. \u00c7at\u0131\u015fma, &#8220;Ben b\u00f6yle dedim, sen \u015f\u00f6yle dedin &#8221; gibi kar\u015f\u0131dakini t\u00f6kezletecek ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrecek horoz d\u00f6v\u00fc\u015f\u00fc tarz\u0131ndaki davran\u0131\u015flardan (ileti\u015fimden) do\u011far. Dengede ise, k\u0131saca herkes tahterevallinin bir taraf\u0131nda ve kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin d\u00fc\u015fmeyece\u011fi \u015fekilde davranmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7at\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmek i\u00e7in daima bir noktaya yo\u011funla\u015fmal\u0131 ve esas konunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Genellikle bir mesele tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131rken ba\u015fka meselelere ge\u00e7ilerek eski defterler kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131larak \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yerine yeni problemler yarat\u0131l\u0131r. Bu durum sorunu b\u00fcy\u00fcterek ve karma\u015f\u0131kla\u015ft\u0131rarak i\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lmaz hale getirir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00b7 G\u00fcvenli Tutum Sergileme ve Tutumunu Kontrol Etme: <\/strong>Tutum her \u015feydir ve her durum bizim davran\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131za g\u00f6re \u015fekil al\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131 ile sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim kurmak isteyen ki\u015finin yapabilece\u011fi en \u00f6nemli davran\u0131\u015f do\u011fru ileti\u015fim kurmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakinin ne s\u00f6ylemesini istiyorsak ona, \u00f6yle s\u00f6ylemeli ve davranmal\u0131. Bir insan\u0131n bize &#8220;Evet&#8221; veya &#8220;Hay\u0131r&#8221; demesinde bizim onunla kurdu\u011funuz ileti\u015fim, belirleyici olmaktad\u0131r.\u0130nsan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131, genellikle psikolojideki kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131l\u0131k ilkesine g\u00f6re i\u015fler. Bunun sonucu olarak, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131, b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde bizim onlara g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz davran\u0131\u015f belirlemektedir. &#8220;Sald\u0131rgan&#8221;, &#8220;\u00c7ekingen&#8221; yoksa &#8220;G\u00fcvenli tutum&#8221; mu sergiliyorsunuz? Alaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z tepki, bu tutumlardan hangisini g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimize ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak de\u011fi\u015fecektir. Mevl\u00e2na, &#8220;D\u00fcnya aksi seda veren bir da\u011fa benzer, ona ne g\u00f6nderirseniz size, ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6nderir&#8221; der. Bu \u00fc\u00e7 tutumun ileti\u015fim a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan sonu\u00e7lar\u0131na bir g\u00f6z atal\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p><strong>i. Sald\u0131rgan tutum: <\/strong>Kendini koruma ad\u0131na ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n haklar\u0131na zarar verecek bi\u00e7imde davranmad\u0131r. Sald\u0131rgan, istekleri tehlikeye girdi mi, elde etmek i\u00e7in sald\u0131r\u0131ya ge\u00e7er ve kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine zarar verir. Kendisi de zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na duyarl\u0131 ancak muhatab\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 duyarl\u0131 de\u011fildir. Genelde cezaland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131, d\u00fc\u015fmanca, su\u00e7lay\u0131c\u0131 ve a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 talepleri vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>ii. \u00c7ekingen tutum:<\/strong> Ger\u00e7ek duygular\u0131n\u0131 saklar ve s\u0131rf sorun \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131n diye haklar\u0131ndan, fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k eder. \u00c7o\u011funlukla sadece kendisi zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 koruyamaz. Sonu\u00e7 k\u00f6t\u00fc ileti\u015fim ve bozuk insan ili\u015fkileri.<\/p>\n<p><strong>iii. At\u0131lgan (g\u00fcvenli) tutum: <\/strong>Etkile\u015fimde bulunulan ki\u015fiye kar\u015f\u0131 duyarl\u0131 olmakt\u0131r. Hem kendi haklar\u0131na hem de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n haklar\u0131na sayg\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131ndad\u0131r. Kendi s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 korur. Kimsenin s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131na tecav\u00fcze kalk\u0131\u015fmaz. \u0130steklerini ve duygular\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e belirtir. Sonu\u00e7 iyi ileti\u015fim ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 insan ili\u015fkileri.<\/p>\n<p>Be\u015f yaz\u0131l\u0131k bu serimizin devam\u0131 yar\u0131n\u2026<\/p>\n<!-- Error, Advert is not available at this time due to schedule\/geolocation restrictions! -->\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Etkili \u0130leti\u015fim Kurmada Uygulanabilecek Teknikler. Kimilerine g\u00f6re hayat, bir sorun \u00e7\u00f6zme s\u00fcrecidir ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam, bu sorunlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmek i\u00e7in g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz \u00e7abalardan olu\u015fur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9192215,"featured_media":65565,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6748,5005],"tags":[66726,66861,67018,66727,66732],"class_list":["post-65564","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-is-dunyasi","category-manset","tag-etkili-iletisim-kurma","tag-etkili-iletisim-kurma-teknikleri","tag-etkili-iletisim-kurmada-uygulanabilecek-teknikler","tag-etkili-iletisim-kurmak","tag-etkili-iletisim-teknikleri"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65564","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9192215"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65564"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65564\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/65565"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65564"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65564"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65564"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}