{"id":97237,"date":"2012-02-09T13:44:57","date_gmt":"2012-02-09T11:44:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/?p=97237"},"modified":"2012-02-09T13:45:29","modified_gmt":"2012-02-09T11:45:29","slug":"emel-sayin-itiraf-587","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/emel-sayin-itiraf-587\/","title":{"rendered":"Emel Say\u0131n’dan b\u00fcy\u00fck itiraf!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Sinema ve ses sanat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 Emel Say\u0131n, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir itirafta bulundu.<\/h3>\n

Emel Say\u0131n kad\u0131nlar\u0131n, u\u011frad\u0131klar\u0131 \u015fiddeti utand\u0131\u011f\u0131 veya korktu\u011fu i\u00e7in kimseye anlatmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n belirterek, kendisinin de 1980’li y\u0131llarda evli oldu\u011fu ki\u015fi taraf\u0131ndan \u015fiddete maruz b\u0131rak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131.<\/p>\n

AK Parti \u0130zmit \u0130l\u00e7e Kad\u0131n Kollar\u0131 Ba\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131nca Sabanc\u0131 K\u00fclt\u00fcr Merkezi’nde d\u00fczenlenen ”De\u011fi\u015fen Toplum, Geli\u015fen Kad\u0131n” konferans\u0131nda konu\u015fan Emel Say\u0131n, T\u00fcrk vatanda\u015f\u0131 olarak kad\u0131na \u015fiddete ba\u011f\u0131ra ba\u011f\u0131ra ”Hay\u0131r” dedi\u011fini ve b\u00f6yle bir \u015feyi kabul etmedi\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n

Hemen her g\u00fcn bir bas\u0131n organ\u0131nda bu olaylar\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc ifade eden Say\u0131n, bir kad\u0131na, en yak\u0131n\u0131 oldu\u011fu e\u015fi taraf\u0131ndan \u015fiddet uyguland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve bu durumun kendisini \u00e7ok \u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6ncelikle konumlar\u0131n\u0131 belirlemeleri ve kendilerine inanmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fini dile getiren Say\u0131n, ”Allah kad\u0131nlar\u0131 sadece erkeklere hizmet etsin diye yaratmad\u0131. Biz kad\u0131nlar e\u015flerimizle el ele, ayn\u0131 yolda ancak hayat arkada\u015f\u0131 olarak y\u00fcr\u00fcyebiliriz” diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n

”G\u00f6z\u00fcme vurdu”<\/h3>\n

\u015eiddetin \u00f6nlenmesi noktas\u0131nda annelere \u00e7ok i\u015f d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc ifade eden Say\u0131n, annelerin erkek \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131, ”Bak evlad\u0131m, g\u00fcn\u00fcn birinde k\u0131z karde\u015fine ya da e\u015fine elini kald\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 duyarsam sana s\u00fct\u00fcm\u00fc helal etmem” diyerek yeti\u015ftirmesi gerekti\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n, maruz kald\u0131klar\u0131 \u015fiddeti utand\u0131\u011f\u0131 veya korktu\u011fu i\u00e7in kimseye anlatmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dikkat i\u00e7eken Say\u0131n, \u015f\u00f6yle devam etti:<\/p>\n

”Ben de 1980’li y\u0131llarda evli oldu\u011fum ki\u015fi taraf\u0131ndan \u015fiddete maruz b\u0131rak\u0131ld\u0131m. \u0130zmir’de bir restoranday\u0131z. E\u015fim bana ‘kim o adam, sana niye bak\u0131yor’ dedi. Hemen oradan kalkmak istedim, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ben o anda ne olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 tahmin ediyordum. Utanmamak ve rezil olmamak i\u00e7in hemen kalkt\u0131m, arabaya girdim. Yine \u00fcsteleyince haks\u0131zl\u0131k etti\u011fini, b\u00f6yle bir \u015feyin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledim. ‘Yeter, dayanam\u0131yorum’ dedim. Yumrukla g\u00f6z\u00fcme vurdu, g\u00f6z\u00fcm morard\u0131. O zaman \u0130zmir’de fuarda \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum, her gece binlerce izleyenim vard\u0131. Makyaj \u00f6rtm\u00fcyor, kapatmak i\u00e7in sa\u00e7\u0131m\u0131 indiriyordum ama yine de kapanm\u0131yordu. Bana soranlara yalan s\u00f6yleyerek ‘araba birden fren yap\u0131nca oldu’ dedim. Onca y\u0131l bunlar\u0131 saklad\u0131m. \u00c7ok yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu \u015fimdi daha iyi biliyorum. Anlatmak, susmamak laz\u0131m. Benim y\u00fcz binlerce, belki milyonlarca sevenim olabilir ama ayn\u0131 muamele bana da yap\u0131labiliyor. Hi\u00e7bir \u015fey fark etmiyor.”<\/p>\n

Emel Say\u0131n, k\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n mutlaka iyi bir e\u011fitimden ge\u00e7irilmesinin \u00f6nemine i\u015faret ederek, k\u0131zlar\u0131n bir meslek sahibi olmalar\u0131 ve ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinde durabilmeleri gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n

K\u0131zlar\u0131n, i\u015f sahibi olmalar\u0131 halinde kendi g\u00fc\u00e7lerinin fark\u0131na varacaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve \u015fiddete maruz kalmayacaklar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc dile getiren Emel Say\u0131n, \u015funlar\u0131 kaydetti:<\/p>\n

”Ba\u015f\u0131ma geldi\u011finde e\u015fimden ayr\u0131ld\u0131m. Asl\u0131nda bu t\u00fcr erkeklerden ayr\u0131lmak da problemdir. Ama ben bir \u015fekilde bunu ba\u015fard\u0131m. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ayaklar\u0131m\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnde durabiliyordum, kimseye ihtiyac\u0131m yoktu. Kad\u0131nlar \u00f6ncelikle kendi de\u011ferlerinin fark\u0131nda olmal\u0131lar. Hepiniz yuvalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n krali\u00e7elerisiniz. Diliyorum ki hepiniz t\u00fcm ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131z boyunca e\u015finizle el ele, yol arkada\u015f\u0131 olarak y\u00fcr\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz.”<\/p>\n

”\u015eiddeti uygulayanlar\u0131n y\u00fczde 95’i erkek”<\/h4>\n

Kocaeli \u00dcniversitesi (KO\u00dc) T\u0131p Fak\u00fcltesi Psikiyatri Anabilimdal\u0131 \u00d6\u011fretim \u00dcyesi Do\u00e7. Dr. Asl\u0131han Polat ise \u015fiddetin artmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, hep var oldu\u011funu fakat kad\u0131nlar taraf\u0131ndan dile getirilmedi\u011fini belirerek, fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n son g\u00fcnlerde artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n

H\u00fck\u00fcmetlerin ve hukuk\u00e7ular\u0131n ”kad\u0131na \u015fiddet” konusuyla daha fazla ilgilenmesine ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak \u015fiddet g\u00f6ren kad\u0131nlar\u0131n sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 anlatabildi\u011fini vurgulayan Polat, T\u00fcrk toplumuna ait ”Dayak cennetten \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131r”, ”K\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6vmeyen dizini d\u00f6ver”, ”Kad\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131rt\u0131ndan sopay\u0131, karn\u0131ndan s\u0131pay\u0131 eksik etmeyeceksin” gibi s\u00f6zlerin kad\u0131nlara \u015fiddeti me\u015frula\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ne s\u00fcrd\u00fc.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131na y\u00f6nelik \u015fiddete b\u00fcy\u00fck bir toplumsal sorun olarak bakmak gerekti\u011fine dikkati \u00e7eken Polat, \u015f\u00f6yle dedi:
\n”\u015eiddeti uygulayanlar\u0131n y\u00fczde 95’i erkek, maruz kalanlar\u0131n y\u00fczden 90’dan fazlas\u0131 kad\u0131n ve \u00e7ocuklard\u0131r. Kad\u0131na y\u00f6nelik \u015fiddet sadece kad\u0131n\u0131n sorunu de\u011fildir, ayn\u0131 zamanda bir toplumsal sorundur. \u015eiddet g\u00f6ren kad\u0131nlar \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmekte, \u015fiddete maruz kalan ve tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuklar da b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcklerinde kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na \u015fiddet uygulamaktad\u0131r. Kad\u0131na yap\u0131lan \u015fiddet bir insan hakk\u0131 ihlalidir. \u00c7o\u011fu gen\u00e7 k\u0131z babas\u0131ndan \u015fiddet g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in ad\u0131n\u0131 bile bilmedi\u011fi erkekle evden ka\u00e7abiliyor.”<\/p>\n

Konu\u015fmalar\u0131n ard\u0131ndan AK Parti \u0130zmit \u0130l\u00e7e Kad\u0131n Kollar\u0131 Ba\u015fkan\u0131 Aysel Demirta\u015f, Emel Say\u0131n’a tablo ve \u00e7i\u00e7ek hediye etti.<\/p>\nError, group does not exist! Check your syntax! (ID: 109)<\/span>\nError, group does not exist! Check your syntax! (ID: 110)<\/span>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Emel Say\u0131n’dan b\u00fcy\u00fck itiraf. Sinema ve ses sanat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 Emel Say\u0131n, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir itirafta bulundu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":97239,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6232,5005],"tags":[16491],"class_list":["post-97237","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-magazin","category-manset","tag-emel-sayin"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/97237","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=97237"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/97237\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/97239"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=97237"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=97237"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nationalturk.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=97237"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}